Courage

Horror gripped the heart of the Kargil soldier,as he saw his lifelong friend fall in battle.

The soldier asked his Lieutenant if he could go out to bring his fallen comrade back.

"You can go," said the Lieutenant, "but I don't think it will be worth it.Your friend is probably dead and you may throw your life away."

The Lieutenant's words didn't matter,and the soldier went anyway.

Miraculously, he managed to reach his friend, hoisted him onto his shoulder and brought him back to their company's trench. The officer checked the wounded soldier , then looked kindly at his friend. " I told you it wouldn't be worth it," he said. "Your friend is dead and you are mortally wounded."

" It was worth it, Sir," said the soldier.

"What do you mean by worth it?" responded the Lieutenant. "Your friend is dead."
"Yes Sir," the soldier answered," but it was worth it because when I got to him, he was still alive and I had the satisfaction of hearing him say....

"My Friend...I knew you'd come........."

Many times in life, whether a thing is worth doing or not, really depends on how one looks at it....if he had not gone,imagine the soldier living his whole life not knowing whether he could have saved his friend's life.....
Take up all your courage and do something your heart tells you to do so that you may not regret not doing it later in your life..

Parenting

Parents are so excited about the first steps and words of their children, but then they spend the next 17 years telling them to sit down and shut up....:-)

If you have trouble getting your children's attention, just sit down and look comfortable.

You can learn many things from children... like how much patience you have.

Summer vacation is a time when parents realize that teachers are grossly underpaid.

An unbreakable toy is useful for breaking other toys.

Kids need love the most when they're acting most unlovable.

Little Johnny's new baby brother was crying and screaming up a storm. He asked his mom, "Where'd baby brother come from?"His mother replied, "Heaven, Johnny. He came from heaven."After listening to his baby brother's wailing for another few seconds Johnny shot back, "WOW! I can see why they threw him out"

The five-year-old daughter was asked by her teacher what her father does, and she replied, "Whatever my Mom tells him to."

The best parents are those who work hard to give their children everything money could NOT buy.......

Perspectives

A letter from a young girl to her mother

Dear Mom,

I know I haven't written for three months, but I have been very busy and I've been having a very exciting time.

Actually, I'm just back from the hospital, where I had spent a fortnight about two months ago. It was nothing, really - just a concussion on the back of my head, a broken leg and a hairline fracture, that I got while jumping out of the second floor of my hostel when it caught fire. In fact, I can now stand all by myself without crutches, and can almost see everything perfectly, except for a slight blur.But don't worry. The doctor says there is a good chance of me walking on my own again.

Actually, it could have been worse, if not for that nicechai-walla who saw me lying there in a dead faint and rushed me to hospital. He was very helpful, really, and came to see me everyday inthe hospital. Now that I am out of hospital, I had nowhere to go, as the hostel is still under construction.

So when he suggested that I move in with him in his hut, I thought it was very kind of him, and agreed.We are very much in love now, and I am sure that you and Dad will surely like him and accept him in the family. I am sure the minor matter thathe is fourteen years older than me and that he is of a different caste and religion, will not matter at all to broad minded parents like you. He may be illiterate and poor, but he has a heart of gold - really, Mom,you should see how he cares for both of us - me and his first wife.She is quite sweet too, and so are her three children; so there is absolutely no problem. You must be wondering how you and Dad gotinformed so late. Don't get angry, Mom. We just didn't have the time. You see,we decided to get married only recently since we thought it would be unfair to let our baby into the world without a proper surname.

Yes, Mom, you are going to be a grandmother! Congratulations! I am sure you and Dad are delighted, and will come to visit us in his village in Mizoram after we shift there next week.

OK Mom. All this did not really happen.

There was no fire, no fracture,no bigamous chai-walla and no illegitimate pregnancy.

But I did flunk in my Mathematics exam, and I wanted you to view this problem in the right perspective......

Your Darling Daughter

This is so true about any problem we face in life.........always look at it in perspective

It may seem like life is very unfair to us,but look at a lot of others and we realise how lucky we are to have so much in life....a good family,a good education, a roof over our heads,food on our table,great friends........

there are millions who don't have any of these....

the little boy down your street who scavanges the dustbins for a bit of food to eat...

the kids in iraq or afganistan who don't know where the next bomb is going to come from...

the twelve thirteen year old girls from nepal who are kidnapped and sold to the brothels in mumbai....

these people have a right to complain life is not fair.....not us.

we make small problems into big issues and make life miserable for everyone around us..:-)

enjoy what we have been given and like the saying....

"live each day as if it were your last,but learn from each day as if you will live forever"

Life

some more one liners on life..:-)

Life itself cannot give you joy unless you really will it.
Life just gives you time and space. Its up to you to fill it with happiness...

Life is really a bed of roses, the lucky ones are those who have great friends who help them pick the thorns off........

Life is full of surprises.
Just say "never" and you'll see...... :-)

Life is not fair, but life is not fair for everyone. That makes life fair.

like the old saying....." i complained because i had no shoes....till i saw a man who had no feet"

Self Worth

Do not undermine your worth......By comparing yourself with others.It is because we are different that each of us is special.

Do not set your goals......By what other people deem important.Only you know what is best for you.

Do not take for granted......The things closest to your heart.Cling to them as you would your life.For without them, life is meaningless.

Do not let your life slip through your fingers......By living in the past nor for the future.By living your life one day at a time,You live all the days of your life.

Do not give up......When you still have something to give.Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.It is a fragile thread that binds us to each other.

Do not be afraid to encounter risks...... It is by taking chances that we learn to be brave.

Do not shut love out of your life......By saying it is impossible to find.The quickest way to receive love is to give love;The fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly. In addition,the best way to keep love is to give it wings.

Do not dismiss your dreams......To be without dreams is to be without hope,to be without hope is to be without purpose.

Do not run through life......So fast that you forget not only where you have been but also where you are going.Life is not a race but a journey to be savored each step of the way.

So smile.... and let the sun shine through.

For there's someone,somewhere, watching over you.

Decisions

This one is quite interesting and really gives us an insight into DECISION MAKING.

A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in use and the other not in use and abandoned .

Only one child played on the unused track, the rest on the operational track.

The train came, and you are just beside the track interchange.

You can make the train change its course to the unused track and save most of the kids. However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the abandoned track would be killed. Will you let the train go on its way or switch its tracks?

Let's take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make................

Most of us might choose to divert the course of the train, and sacrifice only one child.

You might think the same way, I guess.
Exactly, I thought the same way initially because to save most of the children at the expense of only one child was rational decision most people would make, morally and emotionally.

But, have you ever thought that the child choosing to play on the abandoned track had in fact made the right decision to play at a safe place?
Nevertheless, he had to be sacrificed because of his ignorant friends who chose to play where the danger was.

This kind of dilemma happens around us everyday.

In the office, community, in politics and especially in a democratic society, the minority is often sacrificed for the interest of the majority, no matter how foolish or ignorant the majority are, and how farsighted and knowledgeable the minority are.
The child who chose not to play with the rest on the operational track was sidelined. And in the case he was sacrificed, no one would shed a tear for him.

The friend who forwarded me the story said he would not try to change the course of the train because he believed that the kids playing on the operational track should have known very well that track was still in use, and that they should have run away if they heard the train's sirens. If the train was diverted, that lone child would definitely die because he never thought the train could come over to that track!

Moreover, that track was not in use probably because it was not safe.

If the train was diverted to the track, we could put the lives of all passengers on board at stake!

And in your attempt to save a few kids by sacrificing one child, you might end up sacrificing hundreds of people to save these few kids. While we are all aware that life is full of tough decisions that need to be made, we may not realize that hasty decisions may not always be the right one.

"Remember that what's right isn't always popular... and what's popular isn't always right."

Two Paths

everyday each one of us faces two paths in everything we do.....the easy and the difficult....
the path we chose generally depends on the mood we are in and the urgency we are in...:-)
here are a few situations looked at both ways....


Easy is to get a place is someone's address book.
Difficult is to get a place in someone's heart...

Easy is to judge the mistakes of others.
Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes...

Easy is to talk without thinking.
Difficult is to refrain the tongue...

Easy is to hurt someone who loves us.
Difficult is to heal the wound...

Easy is to forgive others.
Difficult is to ask for forgiveness...

Easy is to set rules.
Difficult is to follow them...

Easy is to dream every night.
Difficult is to fight for a dream...

Easy is to show victory.
Difficult is to assume defeat with dignity...

Easy is to admire a full moon.
Difficult to see the other side...

Easy is to stumble with a stone.
Difficult is to get up...

Easy is to enjoy life every day.
Difficult to give its real value...

Easy is to promise something to someone.
Difficult is to fulfill that promise...

Easy is to say we love.
Difficult is to show it every day...

Easy is to criticize others.
Difficult is to improve oneself...

Easy is to make mistakes.
Difficult is to learn from them...

Easy is to weep for a lost love.
Difficult is to take care of it so not to lose it...

Easy is to think about improving.
Difficult is to stop thinking it and put it into action...

Easy is to think bad of others.
Difficult is to give them the benefit of the doubt...

Easy is to receive.
Difficult is to give...

Easy to read this.
Difficult to follow...

Easy is keep the friendship with words.
Difficult is to keep it with meanings...

The Three Magic Words

I asked a lot of people to tell me the first three words that come to mind to describe a relationship and almost all of them said the same thing..."I Love You"
There is much more to relationships than that.....here are a few


Three Words


1.Let me help
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.

2. I understand you.
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many little ways -that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing yourrelationship. And this can apply to any relationship.

3. I respect you
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

4. I miss you.
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."

5. Maybe you're right.
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument. The implication when you say "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting, "maybe I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have an argument with someone, all you normally do is solidify the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to explore the subject more. You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to the other person.

6. Please forgive me
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults,follies and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

7. I thank you.
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

8. Count on me
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship. It is the emotional glue that bonds people.Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can count on me."

9. I'll be there
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there."Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

10. Go for it
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how farout they seem to you. God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to "go for it."

11. I love you
Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words:"I love you."

Wisdom

Wisdom is a comb given to a man once he is bald.......

Wisdom whispers - foolishness shouts......

Wise men talk because they have something to say......Fools talk because they have to say something......

i do not talk less because i am wise.......for me the following saying is more apt...:-)

Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool rather than open my mouth and prove it.......

:-) :-)

Hugs

The Gift of a Hug...

Hugging is the ideal gift. Great for any occasion, fun to give and receive, shows you care, comes with its own wrapping and, of course, fully returnable. Hugging is practically perfect. No batteries to wear out, inflation-proof, nonfattening, no monthly payments, theft-proof and nontaxable.

Hugs are Healthy...

Hugging is healthy. It helps the immune system, cures depression, reduces stress and induces sleep. It's invigorating, rejuvenating, and has no unpleasant side effects. Hugging is nothing less than a miracle drug. Hugging is all natural. It is organic, naturally sweet, no artificial ingredients, nonpolluting, environmentally friendly and 100 percent wholesome.

The Magic of Hugging...

Hugging is an underutilized resource with magical powers. When we open our hearts and arms, we encourage others to do the same. A good hug from someone you care about can make all the difference sometimes. It's perfect for sharing, you can give and receive. Hugging just makes you feel good!

Life

here are some nice one liners on Life.. :-)

Life is like a box of chocolates; you never know when you'll find a nut like me...

Life is a roller coaster.You can either scream every time you hit a bump or you can throw your hands up in the air, enjoy it and look ahead.....

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away......

the monsoons have hit Chennai......hopefully we will have a good one this year
nothing as lovely as the first rains hitting the Indian soil....the thirsty earth drinking in its fill.... the earthy aroma,the greens starting to bloom.....
hmmmmm

Smile

A smile is the lighting system of the face, the cooling system of the head and the heating system of the heart.

its so true...:-)
specially if it is the smile on the face of a loved one or even an unknown child....

A smile is the cheapest way to improve your looks, even if your teeth are crooked....

Friend

A friend is someone who dances with you in the sunlight and walks beside you in the shadows...

i think the most important part of friendship is being there......being there when your friend needs you...
its very difficult in today's super speed world, but most tiffs and arguements in friendship are based on time management.....
a friend who can manage his/her time so that none of the close friends are hurt has found the solution for half the problems in life... :-)

A friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.....

Friendship

A to Z of Friendship

A Friend....

(A)ccepts you as you are
(B)elieves in you
(C)alls you just to say HI
(D)oesn't give up on you
(E)njoys your company
(F)orgives your mistakes
(G)ives unconditionally
(H)elps you
(I)nvites you over for a meal
(J)ust being with you makes them happy
(K)eeps you close to thier heart
(L)oves you for who you are
(M)akes a difference in your life
(N)ever Judges you
(O)ffers support
(P)icks you up when you fall
(Q)uiets your fears
(R)aises your spirits
(S)ays nice things about you
(T)ells you the truth when you need to hear it
(U)nderstands you
(V)alues you
(W)alks beside you
(X)-plains things you don't understand
(Y)ells when you won't listen and
(Z)aps you back to reality

Day 1

started blogging on a nice,bright sunny morning......
its the puja season in India and everyone is in a holiday mood......
this page will hopefully brighten up your day as you read.......
its going to have simple messages on life..... and will try and update everyday
none of it original....:-)
as and when i come across something interesting, i will post it here......it can be a poem, an sms message, just a joke someone said, something interesting on the net....anything i feel like sharing..
enjoy...:-) :-) :-)